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Understanding the latest Gen Z dating trend ‘relationship anarchy’

A new relationship style is emerging on dating apps that could help to tackle Gen Z loneliness. Called ‘relationship anarchy,’ this philosophy puts all connections we have with others on an equal playing field.

Gen Zers are reportedly engaging in a new dating phenomena that could help curb loneliness amongst young people.

Dubbed ‘relationship anarchy,’ this latest philosophy views all relationships within your life as equally important and unique. They’re not bound by any societal conventions, rules, or expectations, and operate strictly within the terms that all parties involved agree to.

This means that a ‘relationship’ with somebody else is not labelled in any way, and can operate completely freely, dependent only on the wants and needs of those within it.

On paper it might sound like little to fuss over, but removing all societal ties within a partnership can make the experience dramatically different to a traditional lover or spouse, for better or worse.

This phenomena was first coined by writer and activist Andie Nordgren.

As part of her initial writings, she described ‘relationship anarchy’ as an approach to love that ‘questions the idea’ that it is a ‘limited resource that can only be real if restricted to a couple.’

Feeld, a popular dating app for kinks and non-monogamous users, recently published its ‘State of Dating’ report that focuses on relationship anarchy. Co-author Ruby Rare argues that this approach to love could help to address the growing loneliness problem with Gen Z.

According to its findings, up to 20% of Gen Z who responded to Feeld’s research said they had practiced relationship anarchy at some stage, compared to 50% of Feeld users specifically.

The company also said that this trend is most prevalent in LGBTQIA+ communities.

We’ve written before about Gen Z loneliness and mental health struggles, with many feeling disconnected from their peers on a romantic level. It’s become a hot topic of discussion, with shows like ‘Adolescence’ focusing on some of the consequences that can occur from toxic online echo chambers and a lack of meaningful relationships.

As Mashable reports, those surveyed as part of Feeld’s research said they felt ‘less loneliness and a higher likelihood of deep and broad connections’ as a result of practicing relationship anarchy.

Over 3,000 users and 6,000 non-users were contacted in February 2025 as part of the report.

However, despite the benefits, relationship anarchy as a means of dating presents significant challenges. For one, boundaries are particularly difficult to navigate, especially given that the entire point is to operate without restrictions or labels.

For Feeld members, they said it is 536% harder to negotiate boundaries from the outset than conventional relationships. That’s a huge increase and could lead to arguments, emotional turmoil and falling out with people you care about.

The advice is clear; if you’re tempted to go down this road, be careful! And stay safe, as per any dating scenario, anarchist or not.

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